Experiencing social connection: A qualitative study of mothers of nonspeaking autistic children

• Published in: PloS one 2020-11, Vol.15 (11), p.e0242661-e0242661
• Main Authors: Jaswal, Vikram K, Dinishak, Janette, Stephan, Christine, Akhtar, Nameera
• Format: Article
• Language: English
• Subjects: Adolescent; Adult; Autism; Autistic children; Autistic Disorder - psychology; Behavior; Beliefs, opinions and attitudes; Biology and Life Sciences; Child; Children; Female; Humans; Male; Medicine and Health Sciences; Middle Aged; Mother-child relations; Mother-Child Relations - psychology; Mothers; Parents & parenting; People and Places; Psychological aspects; Qualitative research; Questionnaires; Social aspects; Social Behavior; Social Interaction; Social isolation; Social Sciences; Speech Disorders - psychology; Suicides & suicide attempts
• ISSN: 1932-6203; 1932-6203
• DOI: 10.1371/journal.pone.0242661

Autistic children do not consistently show conventional signs of social engagement, which some have interpreted to mean that they are not interested in connecting with other people. If someone does not act like they are interested in connecting with you, it may make it difficult to feel connected to them. And yet, some parents report feeling strongly connected to their autistic children. We conducted phenomenological interviews with 13 mothers to understand how they experienced connection with their 5- to 14-year-old nonspeaking autistic children. Mothers of nonspeaking autistic children represent a unique group in which to study connection because their children both may not seem interested in connecting with them and have limited ability to communicate effectively using speech, a common way people connect with each other. The mothers in this study interpreted a range of child behaviors-some unconventional, but many conventional-as signs that their children were interested in connecting with them, (re)framed child behaviors that could undermine connection as caused by factors unrelated to the relationship, and expressed several convictions that may help build and sustain connection in the face of uncertainty about the meaning of their children's behavior. Even though their autistic children may not consistently act in conventional socially oriented ways, these mothers reported perceiving their children's behavior as embedded within an emotionally reciprocal relationship.