Avoidant and defensive: Adult attachment and quality of apologies

After committing an offense, transgressors face an important decision regarding how to respond to the people they hurt. Do they make themselves emotionally vulnerable by offering high-quality, comprehensive apologies? Or do they seek to protect themselves with defensive strategies, such as justifica...

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Published in:Journal of social and personal relationships 2019-03, Vol.36 (3), p.809-833
Main Authors: Schumann, Karina, Orehek, Edward
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Apologies
Attachment
Attachment style
Avoidance behavior
Email
Emotions
Excuses
Internet
Offenses
Strategies
Vulnerability
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Attachment
Attachment style
Avoidance behavior
Email
Emotions
Excuses
Internet
Offenses
Strategies
Vulnerability
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