Role and importance of attachment in child development in surrogate families

• Published in: Socialno Delo 2011-04, Vol.50 (2), p.103-112
• Main Authors: Erzar, Katarina Kompan, Rozic, Tatjana, Simonic, Barbara
• Format: Article
• Language: Slovenian
• Subjects: Child fostering; Child welfare; Family studies; Monitoring; Parenting; Social welfare
• ISSN: 0352-7956

ABSTRACT IN SLOVENIAN: V prispevku je predstavljena izkusnja dela z rejniskimi in posvojiteljskimi druzinami. Avtorice ovrednotijo rejnistvo in posvojitev tako z vidika otroka kot tudi z vidika odraslega. Stiska otroka (zaradi travme ali razvojnih primanjkljajev) v posvojiteljih ali rejnikih pogosto odpre stare in nezaceljene rane iz njihovega otrostva. Prav te rane so sicer tiste, ki so v teh odraslih omogocile socutje do zapuscenih otrok, hkrati pa lahko ob tezavah z rejencem ali posvojenim otrokom znova izbruhnejo na dan ter zagrenijo izkusnjo posvojitve in rejnistva najprej njim, potem pa tudi rejencem oziroma posvojenim otrokom. Prav od sovpadanja nemoci skrbnikov in nadomestnih starsev ter odrascanja rejencev in posvojenih otrok je odvisno, ali se bodo ti otroci lahko dokoncno navezali in pozdravili rano, ker so jih bioloski starsi zavrgli, ali pa bodo za zmeraj ostali brez »prave« druzine. Zato si tako starsi, ki se odlocijo za tako plemenito potezo, kot otroci, ki »tvegajo« se enkrat zaupati odraslim, zasluzijo kar najskrbnejso in najucinkovitejso oporo in spremljanje, da bodo lahko cim bolj uzili upravicenost varne navezanosti in pripadnosti, ki jo daje druzina. Avtorice zelijo iz perspektive teorije navezanosti opozoriti na nekaj kljucnih tock tega procesa, na katerih se iz »nadomestne« razvije »prava« druzina. // ABSTRACT IN ENGLISH: Work experiences with foster and adoptive families are presented. Foster care and adoption both from the viewpoint of the child, as well as of adults, are evaluated. Distress of children (because of trauma or developmental deficits) often opens old and unhealed wounds in adoptive or foster parents from their own childhood. The same wounds are namely those which in these adults facilitate compassion for abandoned children. At the same time, they can mean bitterness for parents and for children, if they outburst from difficult relationships between them. It is the coincidence of helplessness of guardians and foster parents on the one side, and growing up of foster or adopted children on the other side, which will decide, whether or not these children could finally form secure attachment bonds and real their attachment injury caused by their biological parents. Otherwise they could forever remain without a »real« family. Parents, who decide for such a noble gesture, and children, who »risk« once again to trust adults, deserve the most careful and effective support and monitoring, which makes it possible to enjoy more f